Hi, That's part of what I miss the most since my husband died. After 60 years of marriage we had that similar kind of understanding about each others strengths and knew instinctively how to work together to solve the problem at hand.
I really get it Janice. It's not something we think about until we have to but I find myself asking the what if questions. Could I do this or that? What would be my adaptation? Maybe living with Frank has is quietly training me to be prepared should anything happen.
We seem to have the same husband...up to and including the fact that they're both named Frank! I worry quite a bit about having to manage the material world on my own should I outlive him. It's been a great blessing to operate with him inside that invisible teamwork you describe so beautifully.
A good description of what a long partnership brings – as well as how to cope with a fire! I have discovered - although really wouldn't have guessed - that I, too, am good in an emergency. I go into a very practical mode – mustn't rush, just think what is needed now, what will be needed and just carefully do it.
You have also discovered, if you didn't know it before, that your husband is good 'copy'. I have written so many posts about my husband - things he has said that were funny, things he has said that were wise - that he complained he was nothing but copy to me. I assured him that he is a lot more than that to me, but he does provide good copy. Examples provided on request.
It's good to have those skills in a partnership. I see so many people today who have to outsource everything. Yes they provide great copy Ann. Together with my 94 year old dad, I have lots of 'aging' stories to reflect on. Thanks so much for the restack and the recommendation.
The person who doesn't run toward the fire but makes sure the person who does can do it- that role is almost never named. And then the question at the end, which is the real piece underneath this one: what happens to the half of the system that remains? Janice's comment below says everything.
Hi, That's part of what I miss the most since my husband died. After 60 years of marriage we had that similar kind of understanding about each others strengths and knew instinctively how to work together to solve the problem at hand.
I really get it Janice. It's not something we think about until we have to but I find myself asking the what if questions. Could I do this or that? What would be my adaptation? Maybe living with Frank has is quietly training me to be prepared should anything happen.
We seem to have the same husband...up to and including the fact that they're both named Frank! I worry quite a bit about having to manage the material world on my own should I outlive him. It's been a great blessing to operate with him inside that invisible teamwork you describe so beautifully.
It must be the name Susie. All my friends want a Frank. And I count my blessings that I have a great partner and teacher.
I also identify with your referring to your partner as a "teacher." That's when life starts to get really interesting.
This one made me think — a lot!
It's a lot to think about Cathey. I find myself asking: how would I do this or that if I had to? What adaptations might I have to implement?
A good description of what a long partnership brings – as well as how to cope with a fire! I have discovered - although really wouldn't have guessed - that I, too, am good in an emergency. I go into a very practical mode – mustn't rush, just think what is needed now, what will be needed and just carefully do it.
You have also discovered, if you didn't know it before, that your husband is good 'copy'. I have written so many posts about my husband - things he has said that were funny, things he has said that were wise - that he complained he was nothing but copy to me. I assured him that he is a lot more than that to me, but he does provide good copy. Examples provided on request.
It's good to have those skills in a partnership. I see so many people today who have to outsource everything. Yes they provide great copy Ann. Together with my 94 year old dad, I have lots of 'aging' stories to reflect on. Thanks so much for the restack and the recommendation.
The person who doesn't run toward the fire but makes sure the person who does can do it- that role is almost never named. And then the question at the end, which is the real piece underneath this one: what happens to the half of the system that remains? Janice's comment below says everything.